I believe all parents have instincts, or parental intuition, and I feel parents of children with special needs have a little more of these instincts.
Because we need them.
Making decisions on certain school or treatment options for our kids can be absolutely overwhelming. I’m sure as you read this, at some time in your child’s life, you have felt this sense of exhaustion over the continual trust you have to place in yourself as a parent, and go with your instincts.
Or, as I like to say, “Go with your gut.”
A special parent said to me recently, “What if my gut is wrong!”
Most of the time, your gut is right. If there’s something you think may benefit your child, and you observe it or research it, you usually know right away if it is right for your family.
I know I say it often, but I firmly believe that God chose us to parent our kids—we were chosen for this job. And I know that I know that He gave us these “special” instincts that can push us to the next level of success. We were made to be special parents, and He gave us what we need to survive this journey. Remember, our hearts changed the moment we became special parents. Trusting the way your heart feels through each decision is vital to how we will get ourselves to each level of victory.
In the beginning of this process, we are all overwhelmed with the decisions that we face each day—(sometimes it feels like each hour!). And we must listen to our hearts and how each move feels. We must always remember—this is our journey and we must take it one decision at a time. Even though the beginning feels like you can never see the end of the crazy part of the journey—it will come.
Then after awhile, things start to get smoother, and you realize that you can count on yourself to do what is right for your child. When your heart feels good about it, so will your child.
And as they grow, we set good examples of how to make the right decision at the right time for them—and they learn how to do it for themselves.
No matter what the name or face of the disability that is a part of your world is called, your child can feel and sense when you are unsettled. If your gut is lined up with your heart, you shouldn’t develop any serious stomach problems in the process!
Always remember, no one knows your child like you do. Of course, we gather input from physicians, therapists, and teachers in our children’s lives, but ultimately, we are the ones that care for them daily, and know each and every part of their needs.
My prayer for you today is when you doubt your special parent instincts, you will remember these few phrases:
- The time will come when you make decisions and you will feel good about them.
- You will make poor decisions, and you will learn from them.
- There is light at the end of the tunnel.
- Take care of yourself so you can better care for your family.
- You were chosen by God to do this.
- You will survive.
- Your gut is always right, trust it.